Hi Cyrus,
Thank you for your response.
It certainly is frustrating and I think it has been particularly difficult for newbies this year due to the changes in the behaviour of the SE's. Having said that, I'm glad things are moving the right direction, albeit slowly.
This particular site is more of a side project for me so perhaps the lack of activity has meant things not being crawled, as you suggest. It just seems strange that the pages are indexed but the links aren't recorded. And I'm particularly perplexed by the sudden disappearance of links from my WordPress.com blog.
Incidentally, GWT seems to show more links than any other tools. OSE and MSE hardly show any at all. In fact, the only links that show up consistently are from my own personal site, which is just a business card with no activity or authority whatsoever. Very odd.
As an engineer, when things don't make sense and can't be reasoned by logic or science, it's very difficult to move forward. Perhaps I should leave the SEO to somebody else...
Anyway, thanks again for your input. I will have to get creative because I'm not keen on churning out crap just to compete with other people doing the same, whether it works or not.